You hear what I'm saying, right?
Nothing is really wrong. In many ways things in my life are better than ever. But I've been feeling down in spirits. Not terribly anxious to get up in the morning and greet the day. Worn down and unhappy.
But that's not the worst of it. I've been unbearably grouchy towards my children. Just imagine if you had to face THIS everyday.
In short, I haven't been enjoying the time I have with my children. This makes me very sad and I've been thinking a lot about why that is. Here's what I've come up with. Besides the horrible winter weather, and you better believe I AM placing a great deal of the blame on winter, I fear I have put unreasonable expectations on my children and myself.
I confess that I want my children to excel. I want them to do well. We home school so
There is a difference.
I have wonderfully dear friends who I admire so much. Some keep immaculate homes and cars. Another is so organized and structured. I have a sister-in-law who thoughtfully sends birthday and anniversary cards to every member of the gigantic Fox family. Another is so gentle and soft spoken. One is so aware of the needs around her and constantly giving of her time to help out. Another is so creative and daring. Another who can build something from nothing and bless so many others. You get the idea.
I am surrounded by amazing, talented, gifted people. I love them all! I'm not complaining and I'm not comparing myself to them in a woe-me attitude. I know I have my own gifts and talents. It's more that I see these fabulous qualities, and once again, I believe that through hard work I too can develop them as well. I understand that some people may see this differently, but I think this is a pretty healthy attitude. I believe that I can become what I want to become, through my choices and efforts. What is not healthy is feeling that I need to be all those things right now. It is not healthy to be unhappy because no matter what I or my children do, it is not enough. It is not healthy to make myself and those I love miserable in a quest for excellence. It is not healthy to run faster than I am able.
And that is precisely what I've been doing. I have to change. I have to settle down. I need to remember that people, my own children included, are more important that problems. I've got to settle down and love my children.
This week I called an unofficial spring break so we can get ready for Faith's birthday party on Saturday, enjoy the nicer weather, do some practice tests online for end of year testing, and do a little spring cleaning. But mostly, we're having spring break so I can settle down and enjoy being with my children.
End note: And now for the end note that really should have been the main point of this post. 15 minutes after posting this and in an answer to my prayer, I came upon this quote by Elder Bednar in this month's Ensign regarding the enabling power of the Atonement. "...We mistakenly believe we must make the journey from good to better and become a saint all by ourselves through sheer grit, willpower, and discipline, and with our obviously limited capacities".
I mean really, who would ever mistakenly believe that we could develop all those great characteristics just through our own hard work? Sheeh! Some people just don't get it :)