Thursday, July 16, 2026

Do You Mind If I Share?

 Hello Friends.  To the three of you who occasionally read what I post on here, you may have noticed my postings have been rather sporadic over the last few years.  Because... well... life.  Lots and lots of life.  So much life that it has been hard to keep a record of said life. 

For the last few years, "Life" has taken the shape of weddings-- specifically, three weddings in just over two years. To be honest, I don't think I'm going to remember much of the last three years.  It's basically looked like this. 

--August 2023 Bethany returns from her mission in Texas

--2023 Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas

-- April 2024 Bethany and Ben Wedding

-- 2024 Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas

--September 2025 Elinor and Hunter Wedding

--2025 Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas

--April 2026 Faith and Landen Wedding

The "Wedding" includes the months of dating and engagement leading up to the actual wedding day. The girls were all very happy with their weddings.  They were reasonable in what they wanted, and none of them even bordered on becoming a Bridezilla.  

But even so.  WOW!  Weddings are a lot of work, time, money, and BRAIN SPACE!  There are so many details to think through, and many of the tasks must be done sequentially.  

This is what the wedding chatter inside my brain has been like--  pick a date, see if the venue is available for that date, pick a new date, check on family availability, secure a photographer (photos are HOW MUCH??), schedule engagement photos, find a dress, decide on colors, hemorrhage money, figure out who will be bridesmaids and groomsmen, decide how they are to be attired, go buy flowers from Hobby Lobby (fake flowers are HOW MUCH?), sit down with groom's mom to make sure we're all on the same page, research and make  DIY bouquets and boutonnieres, order a bunch of mother-of-the-bride dresses from Amazon (don't forget to return the rejects), decide on reception food and drinks and how to present said food, be emotionally available to the bride-to-be and build a relationship with future son-in-law,  tablecloths, centerpieces, backdrop, order of events for the big day, schedule bridal photos, order large prints of bridal photos and pay for expedited shipping to make sure they arrive in time, order the food and cake, remember to get a box for cards, make the photo guest book, make or order wedding favors for the guests, plan the send off (sparklers, fiberoptic wands, bubbles?), make sure LED lights have batteries, remind bride and groom to keep track of gifts for thank-you notes, collect addresses and prep announcements to go out about a month before, make playlists for first dances and dancing at the reception, organize boxes and totes with all wedding paraphernalia...

Oh my word.  I am tired just remembering.  

During those same three years, I also served as Young Women's president of our church congregation and continued to grow my piano studio.  

When I look back at the years of having babies and a house full of little ones, I don't know how we did what we did.  On paper, it shouldn't have worked.  I strongly believe God sustained and strengthened us.  I'm pretty sure I will look back on the last few years with similar feelings.  

I'm feeling worn thin-- like I've been functioning in survival mode for too long.  Rather than actively making decisions based on what I value and choosing my course, I have been reacting, putting out fires, and just doing what needs to be done when it needs to be done.  And I get that that is just how life is sometimes.  Yet, there are important but neglected relationships that need some time and attention.  The condition of my house definitely needs some TLC.  My spiritual studies have suffered, and I think the stress of it all has taken a toll on my body (aren't I too young to get arthritis? How long does frozen shoulder last?)

I am currently finding myself pleasantly curious about the next chapter of my life.  We've passed the "Daughters Dating and Getting Married" chapter (happy day!), and we're beginning the "Sons Going on Missions" chapter (hopefully). I'm no longer Young Women's President, and I'm bursting with ideas of expanding my music studio.  I am looking forward to having only three kids at home -- to take nothing away from the JOY and EXCITEMENT of a large, bustling brood at home.   I loved it.  And now I will love this new phase.  (Are you telling me every child will have their own room??  That's crazy talk!)

Basically, I feel like, for the first time in quite some time, I might be looking at a little breathing room.  I know, I know... knock on wood.  But I'm not going to deny myself happy thoughts just because "the other shoe could drop".  Rather, I'm quite certain many more shoes are ready and waiting to drop, so I might as well enjoy a good thing when I can:)


Wednesday, July 15, 2026

Long Time Coming for a Very Long Post

This is the post I've been planning for a long time.  I don't know how long it will take me to write it.  I don't know how long the post itself will be.  I likely will cry during the process.

This is the post in which I write about Cannon's journey with ballet.  I am finding it uncomfortable to begin what feels like a daunting process-- that of trying to capture and express what Cannon's involvement with dance has meant to him, to me, and to our family.  So here goes.

This picture was taken on Cannon's first day of his first dance class.  I swear he was not wearing a skirt-- rather baggy black shorts at a rather unfortunate angle for the picture.   It was a tap class at Wasatch Arts Center.  He was seven years old.  Cannon was such a performer and entertainer as a child.  Abe and I thought he'd probably want to do some theater when he got older so he ought to have a bit of dance experience.  
HE LOVED IT!   
In his first little dance, they were baseball players.
I said, "You know, Cannon, if you really like dancing, maybe you'd want to do a ballet class-- because all good dancers have some ballet training."  
He readily agreed.  Was he the only boy in his class?  Yep!  But he didn't seem to care.  He really liked it.
We attended his first ballet performance-- the dance  "Arabian Dance"  from The Nutcracker".  Abe and I looked at each other and whispered, "Oh my!  He's better than the girls!"
So I called up Ballet West and said, "I have an 8 year-old boy that loves ballet and is pretty good at it.  What do you recommend we do?" 
Because of our location, they recommended we contact Jennie Creer-King, who was, at the time, the Principal of the Ballet West Thanksgiving Point campus.  Interestingly, our family and her family had been in the same large ward in Draper quite a few years back, so we sort of knew her.  We were struggling financially at the time and paying big bucks for big-time ballet training wasn't an option for us.  I was hoping praying for a scholarship for Cannon at Ballet West.  Jennie said that was a possibility, but first, we would need to pay $300 for him to do a summer intensive.  That doesn't seem like that much at this point, but it was a LOT to us then.  We felt strongly, this was something he needed to do.  The above picture was taken on his first day at Ballet West.
Here he is with his first evaluation at the end of that summer session.  He was so proud of himself and he LOVED BALLET even more.  Shortly after Cannon began at Ballet West, Jennie Creer-King moved on to other projects.  A lovely woman named Maricar took over as Principal and Cannon loved her.
So now he is 9 and at auditions for Ballet West's Nutcracker 2017.  
It was so exciting for him to be a party boy at the big downtown production!
Here are the party kids of his cast-- he is top right.  In a fun turn of events, he ended up dancing for many years with the gal on the bottom left-- Mariah Frisby-- whose mom will come into play a little later on.
He did end up getting a full scholarship to train at Ballet West.
Meanwhile, cutie little George started dance classes at Wasatch Arts Center.  
And wouldn't you know it, he loved ballet too.  So the two of them auditioned for Nutcracker the next year.
Psyching each other up for the big audition
Cannon was Fritz and George was a Party Boy.  That was almost more than my mother heart could handle.  They were so cute!
Here is Cannon's reaction to breaking the Nutcracker.  I remember he got a mention from the theater critic from the Deseret News saying how comically he danced the part.
You can see him just to the right of the flowers.  This was also the year that PBS produced a special about BW's Nutcracker that the boys are in.
George was soon to join Cannon training at Ballet West.  
And so continued the almost daily trips to Thanksgiving Point for dance classes.  I remember driving home one day with Cannon and he said, "I don't know what I would do if I couldn't dance.  I don't think life would be worth living."  It was a wee dramatic, but that was how he felt.  
 He liked his teachers and the harder they worked him, the more he seemed to thrive.


He didn't complain-- but he would be worn out by the time class was done.
It was about this time that his contemporary teacher-- Lindsay Folkman (pictured below)- said to me, referring to Cannon,  "Of all the boys I've ever taught, I've never had one work as hard as the girls."


He was in a production of Swan Lake

I believe this photo is from a parent observation in Spring of 2019



I think this was the end of BW Summer Intensive.






The boys were in Oquirrh Mountain Ballet's Nutcracker for several years.
It's not Christmas time until the lights go down and the Nutcracker overture begins playing.   I LOVE that moment.

Cannon has always had such poise on stage-- he is a natural performer and immediately draws the audience in.
The BW Thanksgiving Point campus did it's own abridged Nutcracker production in late 2019



Remember, this was a late 2019 production.  About four months later....
BOOM!  COVID!  In person classes are cancelled.  Introducing Zoom ballet classes.  We all did what we had to do.

We limped our way through the last couple months of the dance year.

I believe this picture was taken on the last day of Summer Intensive.  It was also Cannon's last day at Ballet West.
Mid-summer I got a phone call from Mariah Frisby's mom.  She wanted to make sure I had heard that Jennie Creer-King was opening a new studio in Lehi-- Central Utah Ballet.  It was just a bit farther south than Thanksgiving Point. Many of the teachers she had brought on while the principal there, and a great many of the students who had trained with those teachers, were going to this new studio.  
I had not heard anything about a mass exodus until that moment.  I felt VERY torn as to how to proceed.  Ballet West had been VERY good to us and a new studio was an unknown.  I emailed Jennie about what we envisioned for Cannon and ballet moving forward.  I explained to her that we had two items that were extremely important to us:
 1.  Gain the discipline, skill, and technique to be able to dance in college if he wanted to (preferably on scholarship) 
2.  And most importantly, we didn't want any teacher to ever discourage him going on a mission.

Those were our goals for him and while we thought Ballet West could very well help him achieve the first, we had concerns about the second.  Jennie, who currently had a son on a mission, assured me that she understood and the staff of Central Utah Ballet could and would support both goals.

With that, and after some very real prayers, we decided to make the switch.  And with that moment-- that switch point has proved to be providential.  Central Utah Ballet (henceforth to be referred to as CUB) has a been a home away from home for Cannon, George, Peter, and Greta.  Jennie-Creer King has been a mentor and their second mother and we couldn't be more grateful.
Kudos to Jennie-- opening a ballet studio in the thick of a pandemic is no easy feat.  And dancing in masks is no walk in the park!  Even now, looking at these pictures, I feel so bad for them.
Cannon 12 years old when he was placed in Junior Company. 




This piece, choreographed by Lindsay Folkman,was definitely one of my all-time favorites.  https://youtu.be/bu0GQBsqS_c?si=hMT5eGWscEGr53Mu

Cannon's personality and acting ability was brilliant



It was magical.
Jennie and the boys

Cannon and Maricar
Jr. Company 2021
A private lesson for the boys with Jennie

And just like that, it is Nutcracker season again.  This is a rehearsal at CUB
Nutcracker 2021 backstage at the Covey Center
A few weeks later was Oquirrh Mountain Ballet Nutcracker




Another all-time favorite, once again choreographed by Lindsay Folkman-- "Mr. Cellophane" from Chicago



It was brilliant!
Here is Lindsay with the boys


Cannon as the Nutcracker 2022
I've always loved this picture of the boys
All he wanted after the show was some Sunkist soda
I always loved it at shows when another parent would ask who my dancer was, and I could respond-- "most of the boys in the show"



Parent Observation Spring 2023
Senior Company 2023


And just like that, it's time for Nutcracker rehearsals again
Finally Cannon could enjoy having another guy in Senior Company with him-- Jackson

Cannon danced the Chinese variation for six years at CUB-- here he is with the Jackson sisters.
It was about this time that Cannon stopped looking like a kid learning to dance, and finally began to look like a dancer.


Nutcracker 2024
The family has been SO good about coming out to support the dancers.  I especially credit the menfolk that have married into the family.  They didn't grow up attending the ballet-- not many young men do-- but they have been supportive and happily accepted this is part of the holiday season for their foreseeable future. Dare I say, they are becoming more appreciative and discerning audience members.
Midsummer's Night Dream 2025















And we're headed to Nutcracker 2025 dress rehearsals.  Cannon's last one.  

Now prepare yourself--- here are a lot of pictures.  I cannot help myself-- I love his final Nutcracker pictures so much










































December Parent Observation 2025
Kudos to Cannon-- at the beginning of summer 2025 he started hitting the gym and being extremely mindful of his diet.  He really transformed his body and it showed!
We were all on cloud nine at this point, because Cannon had recently learned he had been offered a full tuition scholarship to dance ballet at Brigham Young University.
The final production was Hansel and Gretel
Pay no mind to the misspelling on the poster.
Quite possibly the last production all four of them will be in together.
At the beginning of each show, the seniors came out on stage and announced how long they'd been with Jennie and what their plans were following graduation.  I'll be honest when I say, this was a moment both Abe and I had looked forward to for a long time.  We are very proud of Cannon and who he has become and what he is planning for the future. His ballet training has A LOT to do with those things.
Brianna made Cannon such an awesome cash bouquet!  
Bethany and Ben came to the show on another night.  Faith and Landen were on their honeymoon in Hawaii.  It was a reasonable reason to miss the show.
Ruthie was Cannon's Gretel and she was his Snow Queen in Nutcracker.  She is a gorgeous dancer and she'll be at BYU dancing as well.
And MAJOR credit to Abe-- he is a very good dance dad!  He has always been so supportive and has spent many, many hours driving back and forth from Lehi in the afternoons and evenings while I'm teaching piano. 
We are grateful for the example Cannon has been to his younger siblings.  He has led the way in ballet and they are all reaping the benefits.
Jennie with Cannon at his final parent observation.  Let it be noted, I was in absolute tears at this point.
Jennie's generosity in providing scholarships to Cannon has changed the trajectory of his life.  She and her staff at Central Utah Ballet taught him discipline, respect, stage presence,  respect for women,  punctuality, responsibility, focus, appreciation for the what is beautiful in the world and a desire for a strong, healthy body.  To say I'm grateful doesn't begin to express how I feel about Jennie Creer-King.  She is all of our kids' favorite teacher.  They've all said they like her because she pushes them hard, and while she is not mean, they really don't want to disappoint her.  She expects a lot from her dancers and they deliver.
I will gratefully share the title of Mother with her.